I have been watching guys fail, and fail, and fail again, at trying to hit on women. I have decided to throw them a bone here. I have 11 guidlines to follow when trying to get a woman interested in me.
1. Don't wait until she is alone to go talk to her. Her friends will always drag her away no matter how much she likes you.
2. You have 3 seconds to make you initial approach. any longer than that you will seem creepy for staring at her, or you will talk yourself out of it.
3. Just because there are men does not mean they are her boyfriend.
4. Using "excuse me," "I'm sorry," or any other apologizing phrase makes you sound like a beggar.
5. Don't use the same generic compliment, chances are she has heard it, and is really quite bored with it. Open more with something that will spark conversation, and also can be used if a group is around her. People do have opinions and amazingly, enough they love giving them.
6. Don't buy her a drink, you shouldn't have to pay for her attention
7. Don't touch or grab right away, if she touches you pull back a little make HER work for it.
8. Don't lean over her, stand up straight. If she cannot hear you speak up, make her lean into you.
9. Don't rattle off the same questions: "what's your name?" "what do you do for a living?" boring every other guy has asked her these, your not every other guy.
10. If she is in a group, focus more on her friends for the first 5 - 10 minutes, if you win over her friends, you will win her.
11. Don't be afraid to violate any of these guidelines, once you understand them and why they exist.
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I like them all except for Number 10. If a guy did that to me I would think he was a player and trying to get me and all my friends. Being social with the friends is cool, as long as the main attention/compliments is on the one he really wants.
Number nine is sooo true. Dating should not be a job interview or else I'd show up with a 'life resume' (I like the idea, I wonder what yours would say)
I suggest every guy asks one bizarre question when first meeting a girl. Just one.
@Senja I can see where you are coming from, but its on the basic logic that people always want what they cannot have.
@jessica dating is kinda a job interview, they are applying to be YOUR significant other. its just how one approaches the whole question, I myself just word questions differently, and make statements. the tricky part is to keep the conversation flowing weaving 5,6,7 different topics all at once.
SWC - First of all, thank you for pointing out that I needed to update my age.
Secondly, the one thing I would add to your guidelines is that if you are in a bar, remember your surroundings. I for one am not about to try to have a meaningful conversation or share much details about myself if I have to talk above a crowd. Keep the conversation light and playful. Leave the deep talk for when you score a real date. :)
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