shhhh!

I think its about time i gave a tip for the fellas out there on how to pick up on a female. not just any female, no sir. a fine female who happens to be at a library, or any other venue where words must be kept to a minimum.

The keys to pulling this off is to be bold, and confident

you need to get her attention for a brief moment, flash her a smile. if she flashes one back, touches her hair, or any other preening gesture, your in there. All you have to do is act.

If nothing, better luck next time "nova."

Got her attention, she knows your there, sexual tension in the air! (probably not but hey, we all want a hot librarian from time to time) now your move: pull out a piece of paper draw yourself a tic tac toe game, write loser buys coffee, drop it off at where ever she is and sit. ballsy i know but she will giggle or think your a complete jerk, but at least you know where she stands.

Now of course this alone will not get her on a date with you. I even bet if you do get her number she flakes because that's what women do, but that's another day and time. ciao!

Lately I have been asked "what type of music do you listen to?" okay so i get it almost daily, and since i really do not have a definitive style or type of music i put the trusty ipod on shuffle and here are the first five songs in a random order of course.

"Quicksand" by 8mm
This is quite possibly my favorite band at the moment, they are good to listen to no matter what mood your in.

"Bang bang (my baby shot me down) by Nancy Sinatra
Its simple and always makes me want to watch Kill Bill.

"Over Now" by Day Two
Love this band, but they are no longer, They have a melodic screaming way about them, if you want more they go by Mutton Hollow now, but have changed singers.

"November Rain" if you don't know who this is by then you can leave now.
I think this song speaks for its self, don't you?

"Honey, this mirror ain't big enough for the two of us" by My Chemical Romance
This was off their first album, just the title of the song strikes a cord with me but with lyrics like;
"well you can try all you want
I don't care how much (screaming)
you invest yourself in me
were not working out"
Took the words right out of my mouth.

as a bonus #6

"Alfie" by Lily Allen
Her songs are just happy bouncy little numbers, cheer you up no matter what mood your in.

attraction

"Be the flame not the moth"

This is our little secret

You can try to fix my broken wings
You can know all the words to the songs I sing
But you don't need to know what's wrong with me
Unless you think you gonna come home with me

Blah!

Lately I have just been bored with everything. I just get the feeling that everything is happening in slow motion. perhaps i need to challenge myself more. Maybe i should slow down to the pace of everything else. the best way to describe this feeling is that scene in Spiderman, where the guy is trying to punch him, and he dodges him but is looking around. If you don't know the scene feel free to watch it to help you understand.

Does anyone else ever feel like this?

How did you handle it?

"Thank you"

I'd be lying if I said I did not think about Kate. Yesterday would have been our anniversary, if we had not divorced. I'm blaming it on lack of trust, but her story might be slightly different. She always had a way of making herself out to be the victim, and who would not believe her what with those innocent eyes, 6' tall frame, and looks of a Swedish supermodel.

The thing about it is I learned tons from her. She wanted to be "friends" and me I could not handle that. I now know I made the right decision, with her quotes like "We don't belong together because we never had a movie moment. You know like in Disney movies." This lead her to go out with other men while her husband was in school. She did "love" me, she would make a point of telling me every time we hung up the phone. Slowly I realized I was better off without her, so I pulled away, removing her drug out of me.

Kate gave me tons of knowledge. Knowing when to listen, what to say, being there for a companion, but more importantly I learned belief in myself, and failure. Belief in myself, she never believed in me when i needed someone to just tell me good job, but she was more concerned about when her diamond was going to get bigger. Once you were gone, right, my family did believe in me but my confidence was at an all time low. Slowly I worked, and worked, success upon success. Today I know I can do anything!

Failure, how is that a gift? The thing is I failed but you learn more from losses than you do from victories. I am no longer afraid to fall, I know i can bounce back, stronger, determined, aggressive, and much much more ambitious than before. I took leaps once she was gone, I couldn't use "my family" as my excuse anymore. I was the only thing holding me back. I have been blessed with so many opportunities in the past 2 years and I would never have taken them with her, With that I do thank Kate for all that she taught me.

No tolorance left for drama!

I have been hearing people always complaining about drama in there life. How no one wants drama, how they cant find the right guy/girl, there job sucks, whatever. I say we all want drama. If we were all drama free then then we would just find something else to complain about, which causes drama. As far as dating goes your the only one in control of your dating life so I'm going with the common denominator that's "you." If we really want drama-free lives then what do you do to change it?